If you're single and you're reading the articles on this site in the hope they'll help you find your true love, let me offer some inspiration.

I spent many, many years dating the wrong guys. I thought ~ like many women ~ that there just weren't any good guys out there. Of course, I knew that wasn't true because my friends were married to great guys. So why couldn't I find one?

After years of disappointing relationships (or rather non-relationships), someone gave me some advice that changed my life. She said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome. A light bulb went off. If I kept dating the same kind of guy, I was going to keep having the same kind of relationship. They guys weren't the problem; I was.

At the time I was in my late 30s. I had a rich and full life, but I wanted a healthy relationship. I wanted to be loved and to love somebody. So I set out to change what I was doing.